When I think of Christmas I conclude that the lowest common denominator around the world on Christmas is peace on earth and good will to people everywhere. It’s a time to show love to everyone, especially the ones we love the most. We can easily get caught up in the rush and busyness of making everything “perfect” with the dinners, the gifts, the housecleaning, the travel, etc., that we forget about the most important thing—showing love and kindness to those we love. Sometimes I think we’d be better off sitting in a barn and eating take out hotdogs and hamburgers, than making all the fancy dinner and gift preparations. That way we’d have more time and energy to show love and kindness. Sometimes our love gets lost in the translation. If we hurt one another in the middle of our hurry and scurry to get everything done, the best cure is a sincere apology and acceptance of that apology. Life is short. This is the only 2015 Christmas we’ll ever have. Better to make happy, loving memories than have a picture “perfect” Christmas.
As my husband and I drove home from a Christmas gathering a few years back, we drove past the remains of a car crash on Christmas morning. The fire department was preparing to transport injured passengers. The police were directing traffic around the cars. The tow trucks were getting ready to tow the mangled cars. We saw beautifully wrapped Christmas gifts in the back window of one of the cars and other beautiful gifts strewn around the street. It was a heart wrenching sight. The Christmas plans those families had were gone in an instant. The opportunity to show their love in a “perfect” Christmas was gone forever for that day. How can we learn from their tragedy? Maybe it’s better to make Christmas a little less perfect on the outside and a little more perfect on the inside by working to be a little more patient, a little more kind and a little more loving to the people around us, especially the ones we love the most so that we can all enjoy a little more peace on earth and good will toward people everywhere.
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